I really don't know what I'm feeling right now. Pissed off. Hurt, maybe. Disappointed, definitely.
So, a couple of weeks ago, I had an Etsy sale to a young man. An engagement ring. It's a make to order piece, so I made it, and sent it. Immediately after I sent it, he sends me this panicked convo. His girlfriend has made the comment that she'd like a "low profile" ring, because she works with her hands a lot, and he doesn't know if the ring he ordered fits this description. It does not. I explain what a low profile setting is, and offer to take the ring back and make him a version that fits this description; I even offer to do a straight exchange, no extra charge. He is thankful, and very pleased.
Then, apparently, he talks to his girlfriend again, finds out a little more info. She wants a plain bezel set ring, but also wouldn't mind some flush set stones to either side, on the band. She still likes the hammered band look (which the original ring had), but could I do this for him? I said I could, and worked up how much the extra charge would be. I ordered the necessary supplies, and got working. He had sent me several photos of the kind of bezel she liked, as well as pictures of flush set stones in rings from other Etsy artisans, but none of the photos actually looked anything like what he described. So, I searched, found one that fit his rough description, although it was in gold, with flush set stones all around the band, and cost $1700. He says yes, that is the look he means, and I start crafting.
My piece was only costing him $160, btw.
So we're clear, there are eventually four total rings. The Original Ring, the First Ring w/a bezel, and so on.
Anyway, I finish the first ring. I send him pictures. He is unhappy, because the flush set stones are spaced too far apart. Okay, but there is nothing I can do about that with the ring finished. No problem, I can list and sell that one in the store, I'll just make a second ring, one with the flush set stones spaced closer to the center stone. Realize, it takes me a solid 8-9 hours to craft one of these. At the price of his ring, even making one I am not making all the much per hour. Two, and I'm making less than minimum wage.
So everything that could go wrong on the second ring, does. The bezel cup I bought from Rio is so tight, I can barely fit the stone in. The flush settings don't center up properly, and one of the flush set stones keeps popping out for reasons I can't explain. After it's all finished, I realize the center stone has a crack running through it. I cry tears of frustration, anger, and exhaustion while crafting the stupid thing. I basically tell him, sorry, but I can't sell him this second ring, because I can't stand behind it as a sellable piece, much less a wedding ring. (I forgot to say this is all under a deadline. The ring must go in the mail by the 2nd to reach him in time for his proposal plans). I tell him, I'm sorry, but I've failed, and offer him a refund, or he can take the first ring. As a last ditch offering, I tell him I'm willing to try again, but I won't be able to finish a third ring in time for his deadline. I'm out of certain supplies. (The flush set stones. They are tiny, 2mm. We won't even talk about how many of the damn things are lost on my bathroom floor. The same bathroom our cat boxes are sandwiched into, because of the remodel, so there is always little bits of litter on the floor no matter how often I sweep. And tiny white topaz stones now, as it happens. I had to sweep and scour for them multiple times during the second ring's nightmare creation process.)
He decides he wants me to try again (hey, I offered), and is willing to deal with not getting the ring in time. I go ahead and order more of the teeny tiny stones (a lot more, so it won't matter how many fall on my stupid floor). They end up arriving today, and since I know they are going to, I work my ass off taking an entire day AGAIN to make him a third ring. I even fashion my own tapered bezel, since I hate the prefab one I was using. I like the ring, it turns out well. the flush set stones are not exactly on center, but they are 2mm stones in a 3mm band - not a lot of wiggle room, and getting the buggers exact requires some kind of demonic bargain anyway, I'm pretty sure.
As the light is fading, I manage to get outside and take some photos. I send them to him, and his response is...lackluster. He wants more picture to "see the ring closer". I go ahead and take more, crop them, and send them. This is another hour of my life gone. Finally, I get a response again. He tells me not to take this the wrong way, but he just had it in his mind that the ring would look EXACTLY like the one I had shown him as an example but in silver, not gold.
A $1700 ring.
After I cooled down, I sent him a very polite reply, explaining that it was just an example, and that no $160 ring is ever going to look "exactly like" a $1700 ring by a different artisan, regardless of materials. One, I don't know how she made it, exactly. I'm not in her studio, watching her techniques. I won't be able to duplicate it, then. Two, if I could duplicate it, you can bet your ass I'd charge more than $160 for it. Three, never, ever order something from one artisan because you want it to look like someone else's work. If you like that other person's work, order it from them.
I was much more polite than that, but basically that's what I said. And offered to refund his money so he could go order from the other artisan.
So, to recap, I have made this man four, count them four, rings, and he is probably going to ask me for a refund. I am out at least thirty hours of my life I will never, ever get back, not to mention the materials -- oh, and the literal blood, sweat, and tears that went into these rings.
I can't decide if I want to rage, throw things, take a hammer to the rings (or at least the one with the cracked stone), or just curl up in a corner and cry.
From now on, I will not be embarking on custom pieces unless they are in my own style. Ever. Again.