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Assumption
Sep. 8th, 2006 09:50 am*warning - this is kind of a drawn out post that has to do with girls' night, so if you don't want to read the latest on that, skip this post.*
You know what really, really irritates me no end? Assumption. It's an evil, evil thing. Because of it, people make bad choices, end up in embarrassing situations, or wind up feeling bad. Assumption is the root of most misunderstanding.
Take, for example, my friend L, normally the most reliable, level headed, emotionally mature, know-you-can-count-on person of all my friends. But even she falls victim to this terrible woe occassionally. See, usually when we girls get together to game, it's on Saturday nights. Fridays are my "date night" with Mark, so usually L and her sister get together that night and play games or watch movies or whatever. Except, tonight, Mark is going out with a bunch of guy friends to smoke cigars and talk guy things. This kind of thing happens occassionally, and it's never before been an issue to hastily throw together a 'girls gaming night' on a Friday when it has. Unbeknownst to me, apparently their Fridays have fallen into a fairly rigid schedule, though.
Since Wednesday, when all this schedule changing went down, I've been assuming that our usual Saturday schedule would be our Friday schedule this week, ie getting together sound 7:30, starting the game around 8:30, when little ears go to bed, and gaming until 2:30 or 3:00am. So i made plans to eat dinner with Mark before he takes off with the guys.
Then, this morning I get an e-mail from L, saying something about "at 6:30, when we're all here" and then "will four hours be long enough for you to run this next session?", since my game is at a pivotal point and the next game session will be a major one. So, I e-mail her back, basically asking WTF? And come to find out, they had been assuming their usual Friday schedule would apply - which I had no idea they even had a 'usual' schedule - getting together around 6:30, eating dinner, and then everyone going home around midnight. Let's see, with dinner, figure we start at 7:30-ish, that gives us about 4 and a half hours for gaming. No, definitely not enough time for me to do the next game session. Well, it might be. If the villains have their way. But the whole point is to not let the villains have their way, yes?
So now I have no idea what we're doing tonight. Maybe my game. Maybe something else. Maybe nothing. I hate that, being up in the air. I've e-mailed L that it's no big deal to me, and I don't want to make them change their plans because my schedule has suddenly changed, so if they still want to stick to their usual thing, I'm fine with it, but there's no way I can run the next game session in the time allowed. And I don't feel comfortable starting it, anyway, before Gabe is in bed, cause it's kind of an adult game. My villains are really bad villains - they do awful things to people that little ears should not overhear.
You know what really, really irritates me no end? Assumption. It's an evil, evil thing. Because of it, people make bad choices, end up in embarrassing situations, or wind up feeling bad. Assumption is the root of most misunderstanding.
Take, for example, my friend L, normally the most reliable, level headed, emotionally mature, know-you-can-count-on person of all my friends. But even she falls victim to this terrible woe occassionally. See, usually when we girls get together to game, it's on Saturday nights. Fridays are my "date night" with Mark, so usually L and her sister get together that night and play games or watch movies or whatever. Except, tonight, Mark is going out with a bunch of guy friends to smoke cigars and talk guy things. This kind of thing happens occassionally, and it's never before been an issue to hastily throw together a 'girls gaming night' on a Friday when it has. Unbeknownst to me, apparently their Fridays have fallen into a fairly rigid schedule, though.
Since Wednesday, when all this schedule changing went down, I've been assuming that our usual Saturday schedule would be our Friday schedule this week, ie getting together sound 7:30, starting the game around 8:30, when little ears go to bed, and gaming until 2:30 or 3:00am. So i made plans to eat dinner with Mark before he takes off with the guys.
Then, this morning I get an e-mail from L, saying something about "at 6:30, when we're all here" and then "will four hours be long enough for you to run this next session?", since my game is at a pivotal point and the next game session will be a major one. So, I e-mail her back, basically asking WTF? And come to find out, they had been assuming their usual Friday schedule would apply - which I had no idea they even had a 'usual' schedule - getting together around 6:30, eating dinner, and then everyone going home around midnight. Let's see, with dinner, figure we start at 7:30-ish, that gives us about 4 and a half hours for gaming. No, definitely not enough time for me to do the next game session. Well, it might be. If the villains have their way. But the whole point is to not let the villains have their way, yes?
So now I have no idea what we're doing tonight. Maybe my game. Maybe something else. Maybe nothing. I hate that, being up in the air. I've e-mailed L that it's no big deal to me, and I don't want to make them change their plans because my schedule has suddenly changed, so if they still want to stick to their usual thing, I'm fine with it, but there's no way I can run the next game session in the time allowed. And I don't feel comfortable starting it, anyway, before Gabe is in bed, cause it's kind of an adult game. My villains are really bad villains - they do awful things to people that little ears should not overhear.
